love, pink angel

helping vs being taking advantage of

I love to help people. Well, there are exceptions in some cases, but if for a good cause usually you will see me lend a helping hand.
However, sometimes I get reluctant to help because I always feel that I am being taken advantaged of. We have a project, and I help out by offering my house as a meeting place. In the end, who dirties the place? Them. Who cleans up the place? Me. I have a printer. Who asks for my help? Who does all the printing? Me. We have a deadline. Who remembers it? No one. Who ends up rushing it out? Me. I have money? Who ends up paying for everything? Me. Who never returns the money, thinking that I don't remember? Them.
I guess that is why there are less and less helpful people in the world. That is because everyone is selfish and can only think about themselves. They laze around and shove other people the work. Yes, just because I am quite well-off, I have a car, I have my own room, I have computer and a printer, that is not an excuse to let me do all the work!!!
Sometimes I get mad, I lose my temper, I cry. But my mother always tells me that I cannot blame anyone else, because I am the 'helpful' one who agrees to do all that crap.
I am willing to help people. I just do not want to be taken advantage of. There is a fine line between HELPING and BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF. I hate the latter. Luckily, I have learnt my lesson. That is to share the responsibility. If its a group work, I will do my part and my part only. If the other does not do her work, fine, its her grades as well. I would rather get a mark we both deserved than to share my good marks with her (that will be so undeserving for the lazy bean).

posted by eileen @ 6:47 AM